Big yes to this: “One of the things I’m working on through therapy after my last relationship is trusting myself instead of relying on external opinions to make decisions”!!!
This is such a great piece! As someone with a disability that you can’t see in pictures, online dating has been an absolutely horrid experience for me. You’re so spot on that our friends should be checking in on us because it really can be so draining in so many ways. I just eventually gave up on trying. It stressed me out too much and I’d rather spend time with myself or friends. I could be as open minded as I wanted but unfortunately that didn’t apply to the people on the other end of the swipe. Thanks for writing this!
This is such a great piece and absolutely right that you have to trust your instincts. I learnt that the hard way. As Oprah says, “doubt means don’t”. I’m also sorry I told you to keep an open mind 🙈
Good for you to not settle, do not waste your time on "meet and greets" if your gut tells you not to, trust yourself. Speaking from experience, I would much rather have the time back that I wasted trying to fit someone elses idea of normal, every single set up by a friend left me wishing I'd stayed home with my pets. Best wishes!
Great piece. One to store away and re-read as needed. I think being purposeful is going to serve us better than being open-minded and it sounds like that's what youre doing. Our time is precious, and so are our hearts (that came out very cheesy, lol) - totally agree theres a sweet spot before we slip into closed minded too.
Big yes to this: “One of the things I’m working on through therapy after my last relationship is trusting myself instead of relying on external opinions to make decisions”!!!
This is such a great piece! As someone with a disability that you can’t see in pictures, online dating has been an absolutely horrid experience for me. You’re so spot on that our friends should be checking in on us because it really can be so draining in so many ways. I just eventually gave up on trying. It stressed me out too much and I’d rather spend time with myself or friends. I could be as open minded as I wanted but unfortunately that didn’t apply to the people on the other end of the swipe. Thanks for writing this!
This is such a great piece and absolutely right that you have to trust your instincts. I learnt that the hard way. As Oprah says, “doubt means don’t”. I’m also sorry I told you to keep an open mind 🙈
So much this! Thank you for articulating wisely what I've been feeling in my mind and discussing with friends. X
Good for you to not settle, do not waste your time on "meet and greets" if your gut tells you not to, trust yourself. Speaking from experience, I would much rather have the time back that I wasted trying to fit someone elses idea of normal, every single set up by a friend left me wishing I'd stayed home with my pets. Best wishes!
Great piece. One to store away and re-read as needed. I think being purposeful is going to serve us better than being open-minded and it sounds like that's what youre doing. Our time is precious, and so are our hearts (that came out very cheesy, lol) - totally agree theres a sweet spot before we slip into closed minded too.