Losing my single identity is harder than I could have imagined
This is a beautiful piece and it took me by surprise. As a newly divorced woman, what I write about and so often read about it is the reverse - finding a single identity after having been part of a couple for so long. It’s fascinating to me to see the perspective of a woman who built such a rich life on her own that coupling up was not really the goal. No matter what, when we redefine ourselves, we lose so much of who we were - though hopefully not as much as we gain. It’s hard no matter what, but not everyone thinks about all the nuances as you did here. Thank you for this honest, illuminating piece.